bride wars

today i went to bataan's capital balanga city with my mom to check out crown royale, the only respectable hotel in town. i have envisioned a wedding in corregidor not long ago, but now that i'm here in the philippines, it just seems too taxing to stage a celebration there. besides, with our situation (gary arriving only 4 days before the ceremony) we have no choice really but to stick to my hometown, where i could (and was able to) use my life-long connections to make the wedding happen in such short notice. also, it just feels right to be married in a church where i spent almost all of my sundays hearing mass.

now that i've finished all the arrangements for the church requirements, the next target is to find the venue for our wedding. these days, my mom and i have been having our annabelle-ruffa moments more than usual. she insists i should have the reception in subic, which she says is a mere 10, 15 minutes away from hermosa via sctex. i'm more inclined to have it here in bataan, in balanga specifically, because...well, i just want to.

i've already given up the idea of a garden wedding because there's just too many risk factors that come with it: rain, too much sunshine, sound system quality, humidity, AVP equipment readiness, etc.

so yeah. today, we went to crown royale. it was surprisingly okay for a provincial hotel. it's new, it's clean and it's well-lit. the rates are okay, and we are sure to get the best suite if we book there. when the manager toured us around, i was a little disappointed with the first function room because while it was spacious, the really low ceiling gave me the feeling of suffocation.

then we saw the blue horizon area, which was really, really nice. it was a ballroom. like a ballroom. i wanted it right away, while my mom was exercising her haggling techniques. she was pretending it was ok--not good, not bad, and she was saying, yeah, well, we'll think about it.

minutes later when we went back to the management office, we were informed that another bride just confirmed her reservation for the blue horizon for the same day, at the same time (lunch). i was heart-broken. i had the gall to name-drop (one of the owners of the hotel was a contemporary in UP)and that got the manager pacifying me with a silly promise that we'll be notified should the other bride change her mind. actually, i'm the fifth bride to book one of their ballrooms for the same schedule. imagine that: five weddings at the same time in the same hotel!

now i have a lot of thinking to do, as if i'm not doing enough. how will i get the church to let me get married in the afternoon, so we can have the blue horizon area for dinner? the priest's rule is to not have weddings on saturday afternoons because they interfere with the anticipated mass at 5pm. do i just go for subic? do i plot against the person who stole my venue?!

my mom gave me a piece of advice: you can't get everything you want. i simply said, "watch me". i told you, bridezilla is in the house! :P

birth of the bridezilla

here we go!

the husband gave the ultimate good news: he has an idea when he'll be here! his troop had some sort of a meeting where they calendared their leave applications, and he finally got the schedule that gets him to kuwait in march 14 for a few days of safety briefing before flying to the philippines via germany. we're thinking he'll be here on the 20th, at the latest.

first and foremost, i need to sweet-talk the parish priest and those who give the pre-cana seminar to let us finish all the wedding requirements within the first three or four days that gary is here in the country. this is of course really ambitious because the normal process takes months to happen. we gotta pull some serious strings i tell you.

then if i'm able to do that, the real stress of booking a venue, finding the perfect gown, sending out the invites, etc. begins.

witness the birth of the bridezilla. mwahahahaha

pre-cana long distance style

yes, my friends, some very fortunate progress at last!

i went to the church secretary to tell her that gary's coming to the philippines this march, that he'll be here more or less 14 days, and that yes, please, by all means, get the monsignor out here before i lose the chutzpah to demand a short pre-cana process.

the nice secretary honestly told me that as someone who's listed many a happy couple in her marriage registry, four days to get all the church requirements done is nearly impossible. i pushed for it anyway.

so now gary and i find ourselves on yahoo messenger answering agree-disagree questions about marriage. if you wanna get married as bad as we do, going through the pre-cana while you're worlds apart is a pretty fair deal. it was actually pretty fun too, discussing what he thinks and what i think about every aspect of getting married. we finished page 1 of the 6 pages we have as advance reading. we'll be doing this for the next 5 more days, then we'll go through the sacraments, the prayers, etc.

he'll get here on a tuesday and we'll head straight to the priest for our 1st interview. a relationship seminar the morning after. cathecesis lectures for wednesday and thursday. 2nd interview and confession on friday. wedding on saturday. im already getting exhausted just thinking about it. hay my gulay!:P

two weddings and an anniversary

this morning i went to the st. peter de verona parish secretary's office to register for the church wedding. we need to prepare some documents (baptismal and confirmation certificates, etc.) and we have to undergo a really time-consuming process (pre-cana seminar, cathecesis, interviews, confession)so i have, once again, turned on my panic button. this is aggravated by the fact that gary doesn't know when he will be here in the philippines. he applied for a two-week leave starting the 20th of april, but as the army goes, you don't know what's gonna happen until you get your oders. so how does one prepare the church schedule, the invitations, the venue, the flowers, the wardrobe, when there is no set date for the ceremony? you tell me.

gary insists it will happen. we both want this to be the wedding we have always planned and dreamed of, so even with the time constraint, we both promised to do everything in our power to have a wedding this april. it's now or never.

our first picture together

i've been meaning to blog about our civil wedding for a long time, but never got the chance, until now. today is our first wedding anniversary, and it's the perfect time to reminisce.

everything went wrong in our civil wedding. i mean everything. we were supposed to wait for my mom to get to the states before we tied the knot, but gary and i knew we had to get it done fast so he can put me into his records in the army, apply for housing inside the base, and be together in el paso. i was then staying at his parents' in santa clara, and it killed us to be finally in the same country but still be living apart.

so during his holiday break, he went home to santa clara and decided to finally get married. i was of course, feeling really really guilty for not having any of my family members with me. gary felt sorry for me too, but the longer we'd wait, the harder it was gonna get for us.

so we woke up one morning, and a few hours later, found ourselves driving with his family for 16 hours to nevada, where the marriage contract can be had the same day you get married. we needed this, because gary was scheduled to fly back to el paso in two days from san jose. this means we had to get the marriage contract and hurry back home for him to make it to his flight. we didn't even have time to prepare all the details, not even our wardrobe.

many hours into the trip, gary held my hand from the driver's seat and told me, "this isn't the wedding i have for you. we'll do this for practical reasons for now, but i'll give you the wedding we've always wanted. that's a promise."

we got there at dawn, and while we were all sleepless, nobody wanted to sleep anymore because we had to wait for the first chapel to open, have the ceremony, and go. at around 9am gary and i found this dainty little church that looks like it came straight out of the set of gilmore girls. i told gary, if we're gonna have this rushed wedding, at least have me married in this pretty little chapel. so we got scheduled for 10:30am. we then had to get the marriage license from the county clerk.

so picture this. we were both really tired from the really long trip. except for the drive-thru dinner we had, nobody's eaten anything yet. we couldn't get the damn GPS to work. so gary and i drove around and around looking for the city hall. i was getting really impatient, so i told him we should just stop and ask for directions. "baby, i'm a scout," he said. 30 minutes before our church schedule, and i was ready to walk out on him, the scout finally pulled over and asked for help.

it was a mad rush to the county clerk's office, and while i wasn't thinking anymore as i filled up the form, gary pulled me close and kissed me, when i asked why, he looked at the marriage certificate i was holding. he said it felt so good. i smiled back. it sure did.

so we got back to the room to get ready while everyone was out killing time before the wedding. gary and i got back to the van, and when we were about to pick up his family, he looked at me and said, "listen, let's do this on our own. it's only fair, you have no family with you, so i won't have my family with me. just you and me." and it was the most romantic thing he ever thought of.

the world stopped when we stood in the altar. it was just so romantic. the church was so pretty and everything was so quiet. it was only him, and me, and the reverend. we recited our vows nervously, and when the ceremony was over, we both felt so much closer to each other. like it was our very own little secret. what started out so wrong, in the end, was every bit right.

2010

in the spirit of the new year and all the traditional readings and predictions, i tried my sign (aquarius-january 26) and gary's sign's (capricorn-january 9) compatibility. here's what i got:




Aquarius + Capricorn

Air + Earth = Dust

Aquarius and Capricorn is a very mysterious combination. You are both ruled by Saturn, which is a stable, predictable planet. These are the strongest characteristics of Capricorn, but Aquarius is less predictable, because it has the influence of Uranus as well.

Capricorn is thoroughly traditional, and loves sticking to the tried and true. Aquariius is very different: it feels that situations and rules must be taken apart (not literally!) and re-examined from time to time. It is not content with things as they are, so it is constantly looking for ways to push situations and people to their limits.

Aquarius' belief that trying out new systems is the best way to get the most out of life will be a big hurdle for Capricorn.

But these opposite approaches could be just what you both need. Perhaps Capricorn and Aquarius are two sides of the same coin. Capricorn needs a bit of a push to move them out of their comfort zone, and Aquarius could use a steady hand to keep it more anchored to the here and now.

Capricorn is very sensible with money, too, so they will secure your financial future if you get involved with them.

Your tastes in other areas of life differ considerably too, not surprisingly. Capricorn prefers traditional art or antique styles of furniture, but Aquarius loves more modern furnishings and abstract art. The same sorts of differences are likely in your musical tastes.

There are question marks over sexuality between you. Some Aquarians are considered kinky, so if you do like trying things that are a little way out, be gentle. Some Capricorns are a little staid here.

But Capricorn could well be captivated and completely seduced by your ingenuity in the bedroom. This could bring you together very quickly. And you might learn quite a bit from them: there’s plenty of fun to be had with good old-fashioned lovemaking. Stay open-minded!

Because Saturn rules Capricorns born between 22 December and 1 January, you’ll find your best mates born in this period. Even though your star signs are rather different, there are similarities between you and there will be quite a high level of mutual attraction.

You could have good marriage prospects with Capricorns born between 2 January and 10 January. As different as you seem at the start, you could nevertheless fall in love hard.

If you want lots of emotional stimulation, try getting involved with Capricorns born between 11 January and 20 January. They have a deeper feelings and more sensitivity than is at first apparent. You can gain a great deal of satisfaction from them.
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oh, and we both have the same love sign, capricorn, which reads:

Having Venus in Capricorn is a sure sign that the game of love will not be rushed. A better question might be whether things will get off the ground at all! Those graced by this placement are cautious to the core, not ones to jump into love or meander through various flings. Rather, the tender care of another is what will bring this lover into full bloom. That said, once insecurities and fear of rejection are shoved aside, those with their Venus in Capricorn can be loyal and true lovers who will work hard at making their relationship click. Don't expect a fountain of feelings to flow from these folks, however; expect them instead to be relatively private, albeit sensualists in the right situation. That situation is likely to be one where emotional and financial security is virtually guaranteed. Now that's not too much to ask, is it? Well, hard worker that the Goat is, those with this placement can expect to spend much of their time doing the work, which will ultimately lead to relationship bliss. The fruits of this labor? A faithful and devoted lover. Not bad!

plus, my passion sign is gary's birth sign capricorn, and his passion sign is my birth sign aquarius :D